Why do we like to hurt so much?

(Breaking other people’s heart like shattering glasses?)

Why do we like to hurt so much? Often we see people happy with the mishaps of other people. They feel triumphant and felt that they are more powerful than that really unlucky person. It’s such a disgrace and such an agony to ever think that these people do exist.

Have we ever reached what’s in other people’s heart? Do we know how he or she exactly feels? Some people (na’uzubillah), like to make assumption and just did what they “think” is right or what they feel like doing. Why can’t we make assumption? Well there is a sheer and clear cut lesson from the sirah.

Usamah Bin Zaid is the son of Zaid Bin Harithah while Zaid Bin Harithah is adopted by Prophet Muhammad S.A.W. as his son and Zaid become one of the closest companions to prophet Muhammad S.A.W. Thus, Usamah Bin Zaid is also loved with such affection by the prophet S.A.W.

Usamah Bin Zaid was even chosen by the prophet Muhammad S.A.W. as the army commander to lead the attack against the Rome. At that time, there are many big and well known companions that arealso involved in the army, but Rasulullah chose Usamah Bin Zaid. It was reported that at that time he was just a teenager. Some reported that his age was 16 years old and some reported that his age is around 18 years old. Well, shouldn’t we be ashamed that Usamah with such a young, precocious age was elected as the commander? What about us? Did we lead any big organization? Well, not at 18 years old for sure. This really shows that Usamah has excellent attributes given the entrusted big responsibility put upon him.

Well, I’ll just cut short the story of Usamah. In one of the battle, it was reported that in one incident, he came face to face with the enemy of Islam. All of a sudden, this person exclaimed and announced the syahadah. Usamah was startled but he still held his sword and swung it to that person and killed him instantly.

There are other companions who saw this incident and reported back to prophet Muhammad S.A.W. Once prophet Muhammad S.A.W. heard about this, his face turned red, shaken with anger. Usamah then faced prophet S.A.W. and the prophet asked him whether or not the story is true. Usamah confessed and with defence he told prophet Muhammad S.A.W. that this person announced the syahadah because he is afraid to die. “He just did that to save his life.”

Prophet Muhammad S.A.W. faced then turned very red and reprimanded Usamah, “Did you cut his chest and take out his heart. Do you really know what’s in his heart?”

Usamah later became very regretful and became very sad with the incident. It was reported that Usamah later mentioned that he wished that he never went through that incident and never incur the anger of prophet Muhammad S.A.W. Well, this is companion that we are talking now.

Please don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to lambast all these people, but I do feel sad and regret that some people succumbed to this un-tolerated behavior. Words flow freely without thinking whether or not it could the feeling of other people. Well, words can be very sweet and nice to hear, but sometimes words could be a double sided dagger, not only piercing the heart of the person who hears it but could also, in turn later breaks our heart.

Well, in this exam period time, emotions are at the brink of collapse. People are worried not having enough time to cover all the study. At the same time, they have to juggle between house chores and other responsibilities. Well, this is the time that we should be understanding of others and help to alleviate the anxiety and help our friends in all way that we can.

Well, those who happen to be undergoing this kind of torture, well, stand strong, hold on and cling on to Allah’s promise and insyaAllah prays for the best. Forgive and forget the wrongdoings and insyaAllah, you will make it through.

(Be strong my dear, never lose hope, cling on to Allah’s promises, insyaAllah, you’ll be rewarded, if not in this life, in the hereafter, ameen…)